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Ok? My partner and I now have developed a new habit of communicating. While most people will say something like "Are you ok?" we often now ask each other "How ok are you?". Then we give each other a number between 0 and 10. When we send text messages, we say "hkru?" This "how ok are you?" This gives us more specific and useful information in a very practical and efficient way. -- |
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Not 1-10? Many people are familiar with using the 1-10 scale. I also started using this with questions about feelings. A friend pointed out to me, though, that the scale needed to go to zero. She explained why and I quickly understood she was right. For example, if you think about how much you hate your best friend. Chances are the best answer would be zero, not one. For many feelings, in fact, we probably feel nothing at all of that specific feeling most of the time. So 0-10 makes much more sense when it comes to measuring feelings. S. P. Hein |